A woman’s world was turned upside down after she discovered her boyfriend’s secret double life on Facebook. The 31-year-old had been with her 37-year-old partner for six months, believing they had shared all important personal history.
But a peek at his Facebook profile revealed a shocking truth: he had two children, one of them 18 years old. She stumbled upon a family portrait from 2019 that shattered her trust.
Taking her story to Quora, the woman said: “Last night, I opened his Facebook account, which I don’t usually do because I trust him, and I accidentally found out he has two kids. The oldest is 18. I checked the daughter’s profile, and it broke me when I saw their family portrait posted in 2019.”
After grappling with her emotions, she decided to confront her partner. “I confronted him after crying, and he said he was married at the age of 18, but it didn’t work out, and the ex-wife already had her own family,” she added.
Despite loving him, the woman was crushed by his lack of honesty and didn’t want to be a step-mum. “Has anyone experienced this type of situation? How did you move on and cope?” she asked.
It turned out she wasn’t alone in her predicament. One woman shared a similar experience, advising: “For me personally, I would exit the relationship. 6 months is enough time to share that you have 2 kids and were married prior. That should be a given! If he’s hiding something this major, I’d be concerned about what else he is hiding.”
Another added: “I met a guy and dated him for 6 months and found out he was engaged and living a double life! I was the perfect target because I’m a nice girl and always see the best in people . Sometimes, men who are looking to cheat and maintain a dishonest lifestyle pick girls who don’t question them a lot. I hope you take this as a big red flag.”
More still urged her to end the relationship. One said: “I’m so sorry to hear this. If it was me I would leave. He might be a good guy, but ultimately, he had some big secrets, so at best, he’s a weak guy, and he is still a dishonest one. I would never be able to trust him with the small things if I couldn’t trust him with the big things. It’s not about you being a stepmum. It’s about him hiding things.”
Another user was more blunt, saying: “Dang. Move on from him. He’s a piece of s**t for not being truthful from the beginning,” while someone else simply responded with a string of red flag emojis.
